"Is he alive?" I didn't even bother to say hello.
"He's alive." I began to breathe again. She told me that he had been having trouble breathing and collapsed when they were moving him for some tests. At one point, they had to shock his heart. They still don't know what's wrong with him, but he is stable. He is better now than he was earlier today. He's conscious and alert.
The scariest part for me today was when my sister told me that Nanu had asked for his girls - my aunts - to come to Phoenix. My grandparents are absurdly secretive when it comes to medical issues. They would often not tell their children about major surgery until it was over, so the children wouldn't worry. When my parents moved to Phoenix a few years ago to be closer to my grandparents, they were allowed to know a bit more, but were often sworn to secrecy. So, when I hear my grandfather wants to see his girls, I fear that he thinks it's almost over.
5 years ago, my Aunt Kathy was dying in the hospital from cancer. I was in my first semester in law school. The last weekend she was alive, my mother and sister flew up to Omaha to be with her. Aunt Kathy made me promise not to come up to visit - that she would be there for Thanksgiving. So, I didn't drive up there. She died that week. I've always regretted not going.
I know my grandparents will probably die while I am abroad. It's a fact of my life and career. But, it is so hard, being here by myself. There is not a single person in the entire country that I have known for more than 5 months. Think about that. I wish I could be with my family right now.
I haven't decided if I will go to Phoenix to see Nanu or not. It will depend on how he is doing and what my parents recommend. If you are the praying type, please say one for my grandfather.
|The three Al's - me, my dad and Nanu - at my cousin Matt's wedding|
|Nanu dancing with my Aunt Joan|
|Nanu showing off the beautiful turkey he cooked.|
Nanu, I love you the MOST.